Narcissism is no laughing matter.
Especially when you’re an empath.
It’s hard for us to understand the sheer disregard for anyone else’s feelings, when what we do best is empathize. It’s been said that narcissists have very low self-esteem & they pomp themselves up to compensate for that – cuz there’s no way they’re gonna address the root. ‘Problem .. what problem?!’ They can’t face it, or themselves, or the pain. The definition of a narcissistic sociopath is eerily similar to gaslighting: a terrifyingly twisted ‘game’ of confusion brought on by manipulation.
They take a very long & twisted road – but where they arrive is at the opposite end of the spectrum they seem to be aiming for. The Opposite again. Do you see how many times it’s The Opposite? I talk about that a lot. I see it everywhere. If I had a nickel for every thing/person/org that is in reality the exact opposite of what they portray, I’d be rich ..
This week I read that a narcissist is just an unaware empath. Not sure how I feel about that – not resonating at the moment. Psychology Today recently stated that new research has shown that in fact, they derive much pleasure from successful manipulations. How sad. What assholes.
Or – what seriously damaged individuals. How horrible was the thing they endured that made them this way?
I don’t believe they can’t change. Anybody can change.
Anybody can heal – it just takes the guts, the balls, to say fuck it; to go where the pain is, to deal, to heal – and then you can move on.
My take? It’s twisted, ridiculous & totally unnecessary – especially when the opposite requires just a smidgen of the energy & effort.
If it’s so important to look like the King of Everything, you’d think their tactics would be a lot nicer, a lot kinder, no? How do they reconcile ‘hiding themselves for fear of being not enough,’ ‘manipulating others to get what they want,’ & ‘total disregard for how it might affect their target’ as actions that show they aren’t exactly as what they’re trying to hide?